How do you exit all limitation?
By gaining awareness of the game of exploring limitation that’s played in this reality (diving down to the bottom) then deliberately choosing to exit it!
Remember the game as a kid of diving down to the deep end of the pool or bottom of a lake?
…to see who could stay down the longest or who could grab some object from down below to prove they had been to the bottom.
The goal was to struggle against limitation to “touch bottom.”
Exploring limitation…
Many people come to this planet specifically for the purpose of exploring limitation.
To some, limitation is a FEATURE here.
To others (like you) limitation is something you are looking to exit as you are DONE with it!
Exploring Limitation – it’s backward to your direction
Unless we come into this world with a really strong commitment to ignoring and transcending this reality, we often get conditioned into DESIRING TO EXPLORE LIMITATION.
I know that sounds crazy… but it often works like this:
When your whole family, all your peers, all your teachers and everyone around you seems to be hyper-focused on making themselves wrong and creating more problems and limitations in their world… it’s not like you have much sense of choice.
Suffering and limitation seems to be “the thing they do here.”
It feels like it’s a choice to join the world of limitation, or be alone and against the whole world.
So over time most of us “turn to the dark side” (of exploring limitation.)
We start looking for:
- what’s wrong with me?
- why can’t I get things right? (by social standards)
- why am I so incapable? (of being like others)
- etc…
I remember when my body was 7 or 8 years old, finally succumbing to all the adults who kept labeling my behavior as “wrong” and “bad”.
It wasn’t really, it was just non-conforming.
If I didn’t like doing something, I just didn’t do it. That seemed logical and valid to me.
Yet to others, my not conforming seemed weirdly problematic.
Adults would continually overreact, as if my not ‘doing my homework’ would somehow doom my entire life to one of poverty and homelessness. [spoiler: it didn’t]
I couldn’t seem to see it in the twisted and exaggerated way that adults did. It was like I couldn’t wrap my head around what they were saying, choosing limitation seemed like a foreign way to look at things no matter how I looked at the world.
Back then I didn’t judge myself and my actions, I was just authentic and did “me.”
But it seemed like the whole world thought my actions were wrong and they were all committed to telling me and showing me HOW I was wrong and DEMANDING that I see it their way, and take on their viewpoint as my own.
At one moment that I still remember, I found myself cornered by Dad who was pushing me hard to see myself as being wrong, as if it was life and death and I was choosing death by not seeing things his way!
I remember thinking, “What if I’m not perceiving this world correctly?”… what if *I* have it backward?
[spoiler: I didn’t, he did]
Trusting the vehemence of my father, I gave in and “crossed over.”
It was like I had to literally invert my thinking to seeing my authentic expression of joy and play as bad and inappropriate and conforming to this twisted reality of suffering as somehow beneficial.
From that moment on, I viewed my truth as wrong and sought to conform and align to the expected behavior of my (formerly) twisted family, community, and world.
I was now twisted like them. I had aligned with a path of limitation.
My happiness instantly evaporated, replaced by self-judgment and self-criticism.
Surely, this couldn’t be what they were wanting for me?
I tried to show them how painful this new reality was for me.
But my family seemed oddly happy and relieved about my new state of unhappiness and suffering. It’s like I had joined them on the dark side.
I was like a horse that was now “broken in” and became subservient to the (dark) will of my controllers, to explore with suffering and limitation as my truth like everyone else around me.
This was actually how it felt to me, that 9 year old kid desperately trying to make sense of this twisted world and assuming, that *I* had it all wrong.
It’s like our consciousness gets completely inverted, turned inside out and flipped around so that our focus is on wrongness and limitation, we begin to see it as real and true (even though it isn’t.)
We see wrongness and limitation as truth… and happiness and freedom as unreal. When it was once the reverse for our younger selves.
We literally become committed to exploring and taking on limitation like those who have come before us.
Everyone tells you HOW you should limit yourself:
- They tell you that by a certain age your eyesight starts to go… and over time we accept that limitation as a reality and unknowingly choose it.
- You’re repeatedly told that whatever diseases and struggles your parents had, you inherited them and are likely to suffer from those as well.
- How life is a struggle and making money is hard…
- How having a nurturing relationship partner is hard to find, rare and you have to make do with what you can get.
- How life sucks until you die and just deal with it… like everyone else.
This reality explores limitation as if it was “real” and “true” rather than a twisted CHOICE.
And if someone tells you it’s limitation is a choice, you reject it has fantasy… because limitation and suffering are REAL… while magic and fun are mere daydreams for the delusional.
You are now seeing the world through those dark glasses… and it all looks hopeless.
I watched myself as the aware observer in my 40’s that seemed to keep driving for deeper and deeper depths of limitation in my life. I literally explored “the dark side” in every way I could find.
If there was value in exploring limitation, I would find it!
Constantly taking on more suffering and struggle and mostly unconsciously yet almost deliberately choosing more and more limitation.
It’s like kids in the deep end of the swimming pool, diving down to try to grab the penny on the bottom of the pool or hold their breath the longest.
This bizarre quest to go down deeper and see who can handle the most pressure or the most fear or overcome the most adversity and be the “hero” for spending the most time under pressure and struggle.
It’s the adage from the addiction paradigm, “they don’t give up till they hit bottom.”
Unfortunately, there seems to be some truth in this.
“People often don’t give up till they hit THEIR bottom and decide they are DONE choosing to struggle.”
At some point, they decide that they have suffered enough and it’s not worth it anymore.
…only then do they surrender the path of limitation (that they were told is so very important) and look for a way to transcend suffering and this twisted view of reality.
You eventually acknowledge you have gone far enough and WILL DO WHATEVER IT TAKES – TO CHANGE THIS.
That “I’ll do whatever it takes” is a powerful viewpoint. It’s a game-changer.
It’s committing to a different strategy than you had been committed to, with a concrete intention to do anything required to see a new reality that exists outside of suffering and limitation.
This is dropping all your allegiances with those family and friends committed to struggle and wrongness and finding a NEW PATH to something opposite or better than where you had been.
Truth, What percent are you committed to focusing on wrongness & limitation?
What percent are you committed to focusing on transcending limitation?
“Until you choose with all your heart that limitation no longer has value for you and that you are truly DONE with that suffering, you will unconsciously keep choosing it,
just as you were conditioned to do by the twisted programming of this reality.
What do can you change to get out?
Clear: “Where is everywhere I am still committed to limitation and suffering?
Clear: “Where is everywhere I am still committed to being like others and fitting in?
Clear: “Where is everywhere I am still committed to following other people’s standards for right & wrong, rather than doing what feels good to you personally?
Clear: “Where is everywhere other people’s opinions of you are more important than your own?
Clear: “Where is everywhere you are pretending to live the life you want, when you are actually living the lie others handed to you?
Clear: “Where is everywhere you are living the life your family, partner, friends or boss expect you to live, rather than how YOU most desire living?
Clear: “Where is everywhere you are following your head (programming) rather than your heart or inner knowing?
These are just SOME of the hard questions you start to ask yourself and clear to navigate out of the illusions this reality says are real and find YOUR PERSONAL TRUTH.
On Helping other People…
So maybe you’ve figured a lot of things out and stepped out of a lot of the bullshit. Congratulations! Nice work! Now what?
How do you interact with others?
You know those family members and friends who are struggling and suffering that you want to help?
We’ve all had those people who we tried to “help” find a better life and found they rejected us and our suggestions. Some even find a renewed focus on finding new and improved ways to create MORE suffering and struggle. Why?
A person who has the goal to dive to the bottom of the pool and stay down as long as possible, does NOT want to hear about the benefits of being above the water in the fresh air.
It’s not their unconscious goal.
They are looking for bottom. (limitation)
My students will often come to me and ask me if I can assist some family member of theirs who is struggling. The first thing I check is:
Truth, How committed to wrongness & limitation are they?
How committed to transcending this reality are they?
If they are 50% or more committed to wrongness and limitation, my working with them is pointless. They are not interested in what I have as it opposes their unconscious goals. They are not even able to hear what I have to say as they are pointed in the opposite direction. They are literally flipped around and committed to limitation.
If you truly want to help them, all you can do is to actually support them to find the bottom more firmly and not make their choice wrong.
“A person who is committed to limitation will unconsciously find limitation or even create it where none currently exists.”
You know the folks who seem to complain about everything… they seem to go looking for problems…
Now you get WHY they do. They are committed to finding and exploring limitation. It’s like it’s their life purpose at the moment.
Your suggesting otherwise will often be met with resistance. Most people say they want a better life. But few people actually are committed enough to exiting limitation as to actually create and seek out a better life.
For many, their commitment to limitation goes deep and well beyond their mental awareness.
When they have hit bottom hard enough, deep enough and often enough, something will “click” and they will make a new decision.
Once they see that limitation no longer has value in their life and choose to step outside of the game most people play in this reality, they will change direction.
“Awareness is also realizing that:
not everyone is headed in your direction and not everyone wants to be ‘helped’ in that way.”
As odd as it sounds, a person striving for limitation will listen to you more if you point them towards INCREASING limitation first. They unconsciously see it as support.
Then in the future, when they hit bottom, they are more apt to explore other potentials you might be offering.
If you have turned your life around, people can see that.
So when they feel drawn to choose it, they will ask you.
Don’t push. Give them only what they can receive and leave them to explore.
How do you help YOU?
So while helping others may be challenging, helping yourself is actionable. Get real about…
Truth, How committed to limitation are you?
Honestly, what % are you currently at?
How can you change it?
1. Clear everything you can find that aligns you with limitation.
It’s taken me YEARS to find the bulk of it and clear all the tangled viewpoints and twisted agreements that I had been tricked into taking on.
Slowly, clearing by clearing, choice by choice you move closer to having a life where your self-expression and transcending this reality is more real to you than limitation is.
Being free from the twisted programming of this reality becomes more solid and more true for you and the world of choosing limitation and suffering becomes unreal like a story that is no longer possible as your life.
2. Commit to choosing a better life, not by words, but by actions.
It’s not about making daily affirmations (that trigger the polarized thinking programmed into your brain) it’s about CHOOSING the life you prefer, moment by moment and clearing/releasing the old viewpoints that tricked you into choosing limitation in the first place.
It’s about catching all the places where you unconsciously speak limitation and instead – clearing everything programmed behind that. And instead, moving towards actions that create the life you prefer.
Movement by moment, day by day, you catch yourself defending limitation, clear the limitation and choosing what you prefer instead.
It’s not just about jumping from one side of a polarity, like poverty and choosing to be rich instead.
It’s about being vigilant and taking the hours, days and months it takes to strip that poverty programming from your consciousness and instead choosing to be financially comfortable- whatever that means for you.
It’s about becoming self-aware.
It’s about taking back your capacity to choose.
It’s about re-finding what YOU prefer your reality to be like, regardless of what anyone else thinks about it.
It’s about becoming authentically you, through and through and reclaiming your awareness and your truth over all else.
Is it easy? – No.
It’s the hardest thing I’ve ever done in my entire life.
Is it worth it? – YES!!
It’s the most fulfilling and empowering thing I’ve ever done in my life!
But if I was wrong about exploring limitation, all these years, what does that mean about my life?
Was it all pointless?
Is it wrong to explore limitation?
Hell no, I had a BALL doing it and learned a shit-ton about myself and this reality!
But I knew when I kept repeatedly hitting bottom, that I was done with that old life and old direction.
And in the depths of my suffering and despair, I (repeatedly and persistently) chose differently and re-committed to doing ‘whatever it takes’ to transcend all the limitation in my world.
To become Limitless! (whatever that means to me.)
Have you hit bottom yet?
Are you done swimming down?
How done with it are you?
Jaden Fox, March 2021
